Day by day I float my paper boats
one by one down the running stream.
In bid black letters I write my name on them and the name of
the village where I live.
I hope that someone in some strange land will find them and
know who I am.
I load my little boats with shiuli flower from our garden, and
hope that these blooms of the dawn will be carried safely to land
in the night.
I launch my paper boats and look up into the sky and see the
little clouds setting thee white bulging sails.
I know not what playmate of mine in the sky sends them down
the air to race with my boats!
When night comes I bury my face in my arms and dream that my
paper boats float on and on under the midnight stars.
My heart sinks
as I watch the sun
slip into the sea.
lost in the waves
without my love
here with me.
A possibly interesting question: What would YOU do if you weren`t afraid?
Eine möglicherweise interessante Frage: Was würdest DU tun, wenn Du keine Angst hättest?
Allow A Hug
Der Wahrheit ins Auge blicken
Eine Umarmung gestatten
Wieder beginnen, zu träumen
zur Tat schreiten
nur der Kühlschrank nimmt Anteil
an meiner Klage.
Empty winter days,
only the refrigerator commiserates
with my lament.
“Somewhere over there, my soulmate is looking at the same star!”
About The Artist:
Tetsuya Ishida was born 1973 in Yaizu, Shizuoka, the youngest of four sons. His father was a member of parliament and his mother a housewife. He graduated from Yaizu Central High School in 1992. Ishida stated in interviews that it was during this period that his parents and school principal put pressure on him to thrive academically and develop a career as a teacher or chemist. This experience later appeared in some of his paintings that explore the society’s expectations of youths.
Ishida entered Musashino Art University where he majored in Visual Communication Design. He graduated in 1996. Ishida’s parents, unhappy about his career choice, refused to provide financial support during his university period.
Ishida and film director Isamu Hirabayashi, a friend from his university days, formed a multimedia company to support their work together as collaborators on film/art fusion projects. Facing economic difficulties during Japan’s 1990s recession, their joint venture shifted to become a graphic design company. Ishida left the company to develop his own career as a solo artist.
From 1997 to 2005 he won a growing following, a number of awards and exhibitions, and positive praise of his works, which enabled him to work full-time as an artist until his sudden death.
On May 23, 2005, he was instantly killed by a train at a level crossing in Machida, Tokyo. He was 31 years old. There statements and rumors (?) that his death might have been suicide.
The 3 major themes of Ishida’s artworks:
- Identity, norms and rules
- Claustrophobia, isolation and lack of freedom
- Utilitarianism and conformity
In contrast to his fellow countrymen, who are silenced by the rules of tradition, education, standards / norms and ethics, Tetsuya expressed through his art how he felt about the challenging living conditions in modern Japan. It is said that he was bold and flamboyant, often baffling people but mostly astonishing the masses with his fearlessness.
His artwork is breaking Japanese taboos in many facettes. The Japanese society was and is neither used to deal with blunt criticism, individual (unsatisfied) basic needs, outsiders, deviations as well as with topics like isolation, claustrophobia, scepticism, identity crisis, anxieties, frustrations and other motifs, which Ishida portrayed.
Many have titled his work surrealist portrayals of his observations as a child. Others call his work just plain madness. People, all over the world, appreciate the humor and realism in Ishida`s work that often highlights the extrinsic but also intrinsic compulsion to ensure conformity. An obsession that finally results in self-harming behaviours.
I remember the Japanese proverb: “The nail, which sticks out, has to be hammered down.”…and bent nails have to be removed.
Ishida’s artwork is sometimes difficult to interpret. It is unsettling and doesn`t leave the viewer blasé. When we think of Japanese art, we imagine quiet, flowing gardens painted with soft, neat patterns or an ancient pot, ingrained with history. Criticism in contemporary arts is often encoded or at least softened by a huge portion of “sweetener” or sugar coating. Ishida did not care. His confrontative, dark work is a slap into the face or a scream. Nevertheless, his arts is appreciated not only internationally but also in his homeland.
In 2009, his family was awarded the purple Japanese Medal of Honor, a decoration reserved for those who have contributed to academic and artistic developments, improvements and accomplishments.
His post-mortem website: https://tetsuyaishida.jp/71843/?lang=en
Hong Kong – view from the Victoria Peak
akisamu ya yuku saki-zaki wa hito no ie
autumn cold —
wherever I go people
wohin ich auch immer gehe Leute
haben ein Heim
We know that rejection really hurts, but they can also inflict damage to our psychological well-being that goes well beyond mere emotional pain. Here are 10 lesser known facts that describe the various effects rejection has on our emotions, thinking, and behavior.
Let’s begin by examining why rejection hurts as much as it does:
1. Rejection piggybacks on physical pain pathways in the brain.
fMRI studies show that the same areas of the brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain. This is why rejection hurts so much (neurologically speaking). In fact our brains respond so similarly to rejection and physical pain that…
2. Tylenol reduces the emotional pain rejection elicits.
In a study testing the hypothesis that rejection mimics physical pain, researchers gave some participants acetaminophen (Tylenol) before asking them to recall a painful rejection experience. The people who received Tylenol reported significantly less emotional pain than subjects who took a sugar pill. Psychologists assume that the reason for the strong link between rejection and physical pain is that…
3. Rejection served a vital function in our evolutionary past.
In our hunter/gatherer past, being ostracized from our tribes was akin to a death sentence, as we were unlikely to survive for long alone. Evolutionary psychologists assume the brain developed an early warning system to alert us when we were at risk for ostracism. Because it was so important to get our attention, those who experienced rejection as more painful (i.e., because rejection mimicked physical pain in their brain) gained an evolutionary advantage—they were more likely to correct their behavior and consequently, more likely to remain in the tribe. Which probably also explains why…
4. We can relive and re-experience social pain more vividly than we can physical pain.
Try recalling an experience in which you felt significant physical pain and your brain pathways will respond, “Meh.” In other words, that memory alone won’t elicit physical pain. But try reliving a painful rejection (actually, don’t—just take my word for it), and you will be flooded with many of the same feelings you had at the time (and your brain will respond much as it did at the time, too). Our brain prioritizes rejection experiences because we are social animals who live in “tribes.” This leads to an aspect about rejection we often overlook…
5. Rejection destabilizes our “Need to Belong.”
We all have a fundamental need to belong to a group. When we get rejected, this need becomes destabilized and the disconnection we feel adds to our emotional pain. Reconnecting with those who love us, or reaching out to members of groups to which we feel strong affinity and who value and accept us, has been found to soothe emotional pain after a rejection. Feeling alone and disconnected after a rejection, however, has an often overlooked impact on our behavior…
6. Rejection creates surges of anger and aggression.
In 2001, the Surgeon General of the U.S. issued a report stating that rejection was a greater risk for adolescent violence than drugs, poverty, or gang membership. Countless studies have demonstrated that even mild rejections lead people to take out their aggression on innocent bystanders. School shootings, violence against women, and fired workers going “postal” are other examples of the strong link between rejection and aggression. However, much of that aggression elicited by rejection is also turned inward…
7. Rejections send us on a mission to seek and destroy our self-esteem.
We often respond to romantic rejections by finding fault in ourselves, bemoaning all our inadequacies, kicking ourselves when we’re already down, and smacking our self-esteem into a pulp. Most romantic rejections are a matter of poor fit and a lack of chemistry, incompatible lifestyles, wanting different things at different times, or other such issues of mutual dynamics. Blaming ourselves and attacking our self-worth only deepens the emotional pain we feel and makes it harder for us to recover emotionally. But before you rush to blame yourself for…blaming yourself, keep in mind the fact that…
8. Rejection temporarily lowers our IQ.
Being asked to recall a recent rejection experience and relive the experience was enough to cause people to score significantly lower on subsequent IQ tests, tests of short-term memory, and tests of decision making. Indeed, when we are reeling from a painful rejection, thinking clearly is just not that easy. This explains why…
9. Rejection does not respond to reason.
Participants were put through an experiment in which they were rejected by strangers. The experiment was rigged—the “strangers” were confederates of the researchers. Surprisingly, though, even being told that the “strangers” who had “rejected” them did not actually reject them did little to ease the emotional pain participants felt. Even being told that the strangers belonged to a group they despised, such as e.g. the Neo-Nazis, did little to soothe people’s hurt feelings. Still, the news is not all bad, because…
10. There are ways to treat the psychological wounds rejection inflicts.
It is possible to treat the emotional pain rejection elicits and to prevent the psychological, emotional, cognitive, and relationship fallouts that occur in its aftermath. To do so effectively we must address each of our psychological wounds (i.e., soothe our emotional pain, reduce our anger and aggression, protect our self-esteem, and stabilize our need to belong)
How to handle your fear to be rejected….
- Dissect thoughts under the microscope. When faced with a challenge, what do you tell yourself? “I’m no good . . . this is too hard . . . I’ll never make it . . .?” Don’t let negative self-talk sabotage your attitude.
- Identify realistic fears. Whom do you fear? What might go wrong? Who has the power to reject you? Why would that person say no? The answers will help you prepare your best offer, and facing them will help you keep your composure.
- Focus on the moment. Keep your perspective. Rejection lasts only a moment, and once it’s over, you’ll be able to move on to the next opportunity.
- Be more assertive. Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on their opinions. Learn to express your own needs (appropriately), and say no to requests when you genuinely can’t help.
- Analyze every failure, but never wallow in one. Harry Truman once said, “As soon as I realize I’ve made one damned fool mistake, I rush out and make another one.” Failure is a condition all of us experience. It’s our reaction to our failures that distinguishes winners from losers.
- Don’t rationalize away the hurt. Turned down for funding? Didn’t get the contract? Turned down for funding? Lost a top employee to a big competitor? Don’t let your worth be defined by others. Get back in the game. It’s not a permanent condition; it’s a short-term setback.
(source: partially Psychologie-Heute)